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| Skyrim for XBOX 360 |
I probably shouldn’t make sweeping statements about video gaming as a male-dominated pastime. But for my roommate Kim and I, it really seems to be consuming every waking moment of our boyfriend’s lives when we are not around. Kim remarked, “Sometimes, I just leave [him and his friends] alone to have their boy time, but they always just end up watching someone play Skyrim for, like, hours on end.”
Before
The Elder Scrolls V: Skyrim came out, my boyfriend Jeremy (as well as his friends and little brother Jacob) warned me that I would likely not see much of my boyfriend for the next few months as he tackled the game. I could never have predicted the extent this pseudo-absence was about to take. I was essentially faced with two choices: harbor hatred for the game that stole my boyfriend or give it a chance in order to find a way to like it. Seeing no real benefit from the first, I opted for the latter. A minor epiphany ensued.
This is what Skyrim should look like, epic and (granted) blurry because there was just too much action for me to handle:
The 4-Step Process of Understanding and Accepting my Boyfriend’s Video Game Bingeing
Step 1: Understand what the big deal is and what is going on
First, I had to learn the basics. To do this, I elicited the help of an expert—Brian Bentley, Senior Editor of
Aggrogamer.com. He affirmed my boyfriend’s claims (which were usually eloquent variations of, “Skyrim is going to be so epic!”) with some legitimate reasons. First of all, this game is huge. Like, huge. The world of Skyrim is populated by over 130 actual points of interest like towns, shrines, ruins, or caves with countless unmarked houses and ruins to explore as well.
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| Map of Skyrim with major cities |
I assumed that the game was going to be some annoying collaboration of all things male—exaggerated female forms, violent battle scenes, minimal emotion. I really don’t know why I made that assumption. Brian informed me that the game’s story is not even gender-specific. You create your own character, so the option of gender is available but does not alter the game in any way. Similarly, the whole basis of the story is universal.
Brian summarized this concept for me: “The very first thing in the game is waking up riding in a cart heading to an execution. You are a hero of fate caught in the middle of a war for independence. The issue is that of freedom and having a homeland. Having pride and patriotism is something both men and women can relate.” However, my small survey found that women were drastically underrepresented in the sample I polled.
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| Skyrim character fighting a dragon |
Oh, and did I mention that there are dragons? Yeah, one of your many jobs in the game is to figure out where they’re coming from, determine why they’re coming back to life, and eventually stop this from happening. In the process, you get to fight these overgrown lizards as they invade the towns through which you travel. On the subject of gender-based interests, dragons are universally interesting.
Step 2: Rack up some experience (under the radar)
Have you ever watched a sporting event with a fan, particularly a non-athletic fan? For me, this is my mom and Steelers games. My mom has never in her life played football. In fact, I would not even be surprised if my mom has never even thrown a football. But when she watches football, she is constantly yelling at the players, telling them what they should be doing as if it were so obvious and easy she could have reached in through the television and done it herself.
Watching someone play a video game is quite similar. As my boyfriend Jeremy’s virtual health began plummeting, I adopted the fan persona of Captain Obvious, much like my mom. “You’re going to die!” I would yell in a fit of pseudo-adrenaline. “Kill him! Use the sword! Heal!” Unfortunately, Jeremy did not appreciate these comments. I can only imagine that the Steelers would feel similarly if they could hear all of the things my mom shouts…
I resolved to remedy this awkward situation by sneaking in some game play of my own when Jeremy wasn’t around to judge my utterly horrendous video game skills (with the understanding that I would likely never get better as playing time tends to correlate with character skill level):
Average Session Time by Character Level
After dying approximately 20 times in the first hour, I learned to appreciate that the one time during which Jeremy died the entire night was the result of some well-developed gaming skills. Therefore, he did not need any hasty advice I had to offer.
Step 3: Emotionally connect with 1 of the characters
What makes a good television show or a good movie into a great one? The characters. Plot doesn’t mean much if you can’t connect with and feel for the people it involves. Since I’m stuck watching this video game instead of great television shows and movies, I don’t see why I can’t employ the same thought process. In fact, it’s actually quite common to relate to a video game character.
In fact, this connection was likely supplemented by the customization capabilities that Brian Bentley cited as one of the important aspects of Skyrim as a revolutionary game. He summarized this as such: “There is nothing more frustrating for a person that plays video games than having a very linear, generic path that (s)he feels they have no control over. Skyrim takes players in a very opposite direction. From your looks, your name, your race and your character’s development, Bethesda puts you, the player, in control.”
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| Typical town in Skyrim |
As you progress through the game, you can choose to utilize and refine whatever skills you please, creating a unique character with unique abilities. This character further reflects a personalized experience as you are given the option of taking different quests in which you can sometimes even determine different outcomes based on moral conundrums. As Brian puts it, “This gives the player a truly unique experience they themselves fabricate for their own enjoyment.”
Jeremy’s character is very intimidating. When given the option, he rarely wastes his time persuading his way through a situation. Jeremy chooses to sneak around and attack anyone or anything in his way. When it comes to moral conundrums, however, his character is a little less hasty. He tends to think twice before stealing or pick pocketing without a clear motive. When selling items from his inventory, he is also inclined to give items away to vendors when they run out of money.
I like to think of this as a subconscious balancing of his character’s karma.
Step 4: Sit back and enjoy the movie
There are many layers to this game; it does not adhere to the stereotypical format of game play like a traditional first-person shooter or war-themed game would. In Skyrim, there are characters, subplots, theatrical cut scenes, emotional peaks, and cultural conventions. It plays out a lot like a movie, so I resolved to treat it like one... like a long, drawn-out, months-long, nightly marathon of a movie. One that averages around 3.27 hours a night:
Average Session Time in Hours by Age
For Jeremy, his brother Jacob, and some of my other roommates as well as our expert Brian, three to four hour binges are not entirely uncommon. Brian is averaging about 25 hours a week in addition to his full-time job, while Jacob is averaging enough hours for Skyrim to constitute as his full-time job. My boyfriend will not admit how often he plays, but in addition to the nightly two to three hour block that he puts in, I know that he plays for the entirety of his days off when I am not there.
Average Session Time in Hours
In the end, Skyrim will not last forever. I reminded Jeremy that he would eventually run out of things to do or become sick of the game, and he would then come running back to me. His response? “Yeah, but I’m hoping the downloadable content will be out by then.” Oh, Skyrim...